William Jennings Bryan, the great
American orator and defender of the faith, was at one point in his midlife
having his portrait painted. The artist, in helping to make Bryan “picture-perfect”
inquired of him, “Sir, why do you wear your hair over your ears like that?”
William Jennings Bryan replied, “Actually, there is a romance connected with
it. When I first pursued Mrs. Bryan, she declined my every invitation.
“Later a close confidant of hers
whispered to me that it was not that she did not like me but that there was
something about the way my ears stick out that turned her off. I decided then
and there to remedy the situation. So as to remove the obstacle of our
relationship, I grew my hair long enough to cover my offending parts.”
“That was a long time ago and
fashions have changed, sir”, the artist responded. “Would you consider cutting
your hair now?” “Absolutely not,” said the statesman-orator, “I am still
pursuing my romance with Mrs. Bryan.”
True romance never runs out. An
advertisement in the Personal section of a local newspaper was headlined “Husband
for Sale.” The text below read, “Age 52, in good health. Out or sorts most of
the time. No longer verbalizes ‘I love you’. Is only rarely touching and
tender. Asking price is 2 cents. Note: Price negotiable!”
According to the wife who placed
that message in the newspaper, her husband is not worth even two cents. We
chuckle at such advertisement; then we hope for all the world that it really is
just a joke. William Jennings Bryan was aware that when romance leaves a marriage,
holy wedlock becomes holy deadlock. Something bad has happened to that
relationship.
The same is true with our
relationship with our Maker. It can deteriorate to the place where it is
virtually worthless. We need constant reminders that fashions come and go,
times and circumstances change, but our romance with God through Christ must
not be allowed to fluctuate. We were made for intimacy with Him, and it is
always in our best interests to deal with any part of our lives that offends
Him.
In the sacrifice of His Son, God
made it possible for us to cover our offending parts. No relationship on earth
will ever substitute for this relationship He makes possible. None will ever
take its place. Indeed, no relationship on earth will ever be truly right
without our intimate connection with God first being in place.
How can I say this with such
certainty? First, because the Bible says it is so. Our relationship with God is
at the same time the foundation and the model for our relationship with one
another. Second, I can testify to this point because of a wonderful personal
experience. Barbara (Robert Leslie Holmes’ wife) and I were not committed to
Christ when we married. Baptized as children, we were brought up in church but
we somehow missed understanding the reality of God’s redeeming grace through
Christ. We were married, in the church and had a good and loving relationship
from the beginning.
When we married, we were
committed to each other for life. We were still not Christians, however. It was
sometime after our second wedding anniversary that we each, at separate times,
came to faith in Christ. When Christ entered our lives individually and when He
entered our lives together, we found a level of closeness and love for one
another that we had no idea existed before. This romance of ours, after over
thirty-three years of marriage, is stronger than ever, and we agree that it is
because God is at the centre of it.
That is not to say that making a
commitment with Christ is a Pollyanna recipe for a good marriage nor that all
marital problems somehow float away just because a couple commit their way to
Christ. It does mean that when Christ is at the centre of a marriage, the
issues and concerns that are a normal part of married life are seen from a
different perspective.
When Christ is at the centre
there is a renewed sense of commitment to working through difficulties in a way
that is positive and constructive for both the husband and the wife. The
family that prays together really does stay together. The Christian
principles that make for better marriages are true for other relationships as
well.
*** Written By Robert Leslie
Holmes ***
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